My inner dialogue is kind and loving. My thoughts create only good experiences. The more I focus my mind upon the good, the more good comes to me.
My inner dialog has never been kind and loving. My inner dialog is hyper-critical and all kinds of sarcastic. I tear myself apart and examine every detail. So this affirmation strikes hard and deep.
Reading through my posts, that same mentality appears in my words. There is general dismay and expressions about the need to improve. I'm looking down, not up. I guess that is just where I happen to be in this time and place, but that is no way to live.
Previous affirmations got me into the mood to take control over some of the loose ends in my world. I've taken steps to protect myself from the people who are trying to deliberately bring me down. I've begun working strongly on my thinking about the world that surrounds me and my perceptions of it. I'm trying very hard to look at the upside of situations and see a positive future.
The same will be true of my inner dialog. Looking ahead, I can see that future inspirations throughout this month will increase the need to spin my inner dialog and contemplate a totally new way of looking at the world. Changing my inner dialog is a fundamental step in changing so many of the other aspects of my world.
So today I will be seriously challenging my inner dialog. I will think up, not down. I will focus on the good, not the bad. I will try to let go of the worries about the holidays and cash flow and relationships - opting instead to just let things flow and to consider all of those things from a positive perspective. I will look toward the light.
About the photograph: Somewhere behind this chunk of steel, all sorts of conversations are taking place. You can't hear them, but you know they are there.
Safety marks the inspiration for the seventh day of the 31 day challenge inspired by my friend Cathy. She wrote:
I am Safe
All is well in my world and I am safe. I have and am neither too little nor too much, and I do not have to prove myself to anyone. I am okay as I am.
I think that feelings of safety run a pretty wide spectrum. We are all at risk in many ways from things that take place in our world. My personal experience makes it quite clear that those intrusions aren't likely to be preceded with warning signs. That would be wonderful if they were! But intrusions to our sense of safety happens to each of us along our path, without warning, and leave us feeling vulnerable and more at risk.
I feel safe about some of the fundamental things in my life. I have a place to live and sleep, there is at least some food in my kitchen, I've got a reliable car, there are a few friends I know I can count on if I need help, and my family is readily available for support. For all of those things I am grateful and deeply blessed.
There are also less tangible topics for which a sense of safety feels elusive. This affirmation has caused me to pause and reflect on some of those gaps in my world. I have been considering how my own actions have contributed to those gaps. It is clear that personal change (and the discipline to implement change) is required to regain control and build that sense of safety. I think specifically about how my actions have contributed to a lack of safety in the relationships I have with my daughters and some friends. I've already made changes to improve those things but there is always more work to do.
I also think about the way others have imposed their need for control over my life, causing me feelings of a lack of safety. Some of those situations are now in the past and I can certainly find forgiveness and let them go. For others, their ongoing attempts at control would require a different approach. I have no idea what that might be. My instinct would be to cut them free from my world, but that isn't possible for a few of them. More thought will be necessary to figure out how best to deal with those situations and regain a sense of safety.
About the photograph: What better place to seek safety than a tall tower? Cement walls, small windows, and a long way off the ground.
I look towards the future with hope and happiness. I am and will remain open and receptive to blissful, knock-my-socks off miracles in every day and in every area of my life.
I really like this, the sixth affirmation of the month. I almost think that this one, if honored, would make many of the other affirmations happen naturally.
Being positive about the future would certainly help me get beyond dwelling on the past. Some of the past I should have let go of quite some time ago. But doing that is very, very hard work. In some cases letting go of the past is almost impossible as it finds ways to show itself repeatedly in my life. I've got photos that flood my technology reminding me of a past relationship. As often as I find them and set them aside, more and more of them show up when I least expect it. I've got a divorce to get past, but more often than I care to think about there is an ex-wife sticking her hand out demanding more and more money, or threatening me with lawyers, and reminding me that the situation won't be over soon or with grace.
Nothing happens, however, unless I try. And trying is certainly progress of which I can be proud. So this one will be small steps and trying to see that glass as half-full.
About the photograph: Looking ahead down a bright sidewalk, not knowing what might be next to encounter along the way. That seems like a great way to think about the future.
The fifth day of 31 days of positive affirmations is quite a challenge for me as I'm at the extreme edges on many of these points. The affirmation goes like this:
I am social and I like meeting people. I live my life free of fear. I am adventurous and engage with the world. I am surrounded by people who love and support me, and I love and support myself.
I would consider myself to be quite social, yet I'm always uncomfortable when meeting new people. Being free of fear isn't exactly where I'm at lately. While adventurous, engaging with the world in those adventures hasn't been my style as I am much more an observer. And while I do have people close to me who offer their love and support, I have never been much of my own fan, choosing instead to be very self-critical.
That's pretty depressing. I've got much work to do in these areas.
I am hopeful that some of the other affirmations will start opening me up to consider and implement positive change in these areas. I have taken time each day to consider these affirmations again and again. That does seem to be helping. This particular affirmation may just take longer to absorb and to incorporate into my daily life.
About the photograph: These seeds break out every year and connect with the world. I had one open up in my car once resulting in what felt like being in a crowded room full of cotton! That seemed pretty social to me.
31 days of positive affirmations continues. Today the topic is trust:
I open my heart to receive the highest power available to me. I trust I am being led to where I need to be. At the same time I choose to have trustworthy people in my life. I'm not afraid to set boundaries to protect myself.
There is a fine line between setting boundaries and leaving yourself exposed to trust the world around you. I think most of us do more about setting boundaries than we do about trusting the world. It is really easy to close down, hide, and let the world pass us by.
What struck me about today's affirmation was the idea that I am being led to where I need to be. Being that trusting of the world takes courage and a very open mind. It requires that we relax and let go of many of our assumptions and beliefs about the things that happen to us every day. If we can trust that things happen for a reason, reasons we may not see or understand in the moment, we can relax our boundaries and let the world show us the brighter path it offers. I will be trying to open myself to whatever that path has in mind for me.
The smallest action can make a difference. My life is important. I can change the world just by being here, right now.
Little things matter. Details matter. I've always found it easy to be a big-picture thinker but that sometimes comes at the expense of the details. All too often I miss the obvious details because I'm thinking beyond them to the larger situation. Ironically, this is a failing in my personal life, not at work where nothing seems to escape me (at least most of the time).
I'll be trying to slow things down and look at the details of my life. I'll make sure my thinking includes those details so that I can see the difference they make in my world and to those who are close to me. Perhaps that change will put me more into the moments of each day and help me to make a positive impact, one detail at a time.